Archive for January, 2008

Looks and more


 Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) said: “You will be treated the way you treat others.”

The following was an intersting study made on just the headress.




Giving thanks, expressing appreciation and to render one’s thanks to someone who has shown favor is a very important concept day in and day out. However, through experiences I have found that giving thanks to Allah should be done in the good and the bad times. I once had a friend make this statement and could not understand through this sign of faith that gratefulness to Allah is a concept mostly emphasized through many verses in the Quran.

“If you would count up the favors of Allah, never would you be able to number them: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Al-Nahl, 18)

O you who believe! Eat of the good things that We have provided for you, and be grateful to Allah, if it is Him you worship. (Al-Baqara, 172)

I have experienced that giving thanks every day is part of my test in this life. It was my expectations to wait for some grand favors or special occasions to render my thanks to Allah. I have learned through hardships that it is only for one to reflect on everything that makes life possible: good health, intelligence, his life, the air that we breathe, our five senses is indeed a blessing.

To reflect on my life is to say that one should never neglect to render thanks to Allah.

See you not that the ships sail through the ocean by the Grace of Allah?- that He may show you of His Signs? Verily in this are Signs for all who constantly persevere and give thanks. (Luqman, 31)

Degree of love and respect for others


The following are sayings that I came across which are so close and dear to how the Prophet (PBUH) when dealing with each other: 

 The Prophet (SAW) said, “The first person to offer salam receives ten virtues, whereas the person responding gets only one.” We should try not to hurt anyone’s feelings and to be very considerate and courteous to each other. We should not wait until somebody walks over to us and offers his salams. Instead, we should be the ones initiating this and embracing our fellow Muslims in keeping with the sunnah of the Prophet (SAW). If one of our brothers is ill, we should be concerned about him as much as we would be concerned if we ourselves were sick.

None of you truly believes unless he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself.Do not envy one another; do not inflate prices one to another; do not hate one another; do not turn away from one another; do not undercut one another, but be you, oh servants of Allah, brothers.
A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim: he neither oppresses him nor does he fail, he neither lies to him nor does he hold him in contempt. Piety is right here — and he pointed to his breast three times. It is evil enough for a man to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. The whole of a Muslim for another Muslim is inviolable: his blood, his property, and his honor.

I hope to learn something from these hadith.


Whole Fruits vs. Juice boxes


Even though the weather has not changed yet, a glass of “fruit juice” is something I can not avoid drinking. However, I have recently started to pay more attention to the idea of what I am assuming that I am pouring into this glass is it healthy. I must admit that I can overindulge in drinking juice which is what motivated me to read up more on this topic.

According to a recent article published through the John Hopkins University, entitled “Does Juice Fit Into a Healthy Diet?” the following was something I had little knowledge about:

” Beware of terms like “fruit drink,” “fruit cocktail” or “fruit punch,” all of which may indicate it is not 100-percent juice and is loaded with artificial flavorings and extra sugar.

As for portion size, adults should drink no more than two cups (16 ounces) each day. This may vary depending on your age, body weight and gender, but it’s a good general guideline.

Although most adults need about two servings or cups of fruit per day, 100-percent fruit juice can count as one, or even two, of those servings. The problem arises when people drink more than this, and those extra calories turn into extra weight.

Children don’t need as much juice as adults. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, 1- to 6-year-olds only need 4 to 6 ounces of juice per day, while those ages 7 to 18 years need only 8 to 12 ounces. Again, we’re talking 100-percent fruit juice. Even though obesity in children has often been linked to juice consumption, research has not found a link between consuming the recommended amounts of 100-percent juice and overweight in children.

Sounds pretty informative and to the point does it not? Well, first it is resolving to eat healthy and now fruit juices can also consume our choices of what we drink. I really aprreciated this article and found benefit to it as an adult.  The information provided does not discourage not to fit in juice to our diets but to simply watch our calories. The child intake of juice is something I always try to be aware about on how much and when.

I ususally prefer not make my own fruit juices becasue I will confess I hate to deal with cleaning up the blender. (just an excuse) However, I am going to try to better manage my juice intake and not overindulge. Eating whole fruits is also something that is easier to grab and eat while on the go and probably has more benefit to it than loading on the calories in different colorful yet artificial fruit drinks.

Moderation is the key


Relating Life


 The Four Wives

Author Unknown

Once upon a time, there was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He’s very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men. He loved his 2nd wife, too. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant’s confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times. Now, the merchant’s 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, “Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I’ll be alone. How lonely I’ll be!” Thus, he asked the 4th wife, “I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?” “No way!” replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word. The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant’s heart. The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, “I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?” “No!” replied the 3rd wife. “Life is so good over here! I’m going to remarry when you die!” The merchant’s heart sank and turned cold. He then asked the 2nd wife, “I always turned to you for help and you’ve always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?” “I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!” replied the 2nd wife. “At the very most, I can only send you to your grave.” The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated. Then a voice called out : “I’ll leave with you. I’ll follow you no matter where you go. “The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, “I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!” We all have 4 wives in our lives. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it’ll leave us when we die. Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others. The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we’re alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material wealth and sensual pleasure. It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it’s a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than wait until we’re on our death bed to lament.

Gift of Words


Drop A Pebble in the Water

Author Unknown

Drop a pebble in the water: just a splash, and it is gone; But there’s a half-a-hundred ripples circling on and on and on, Spreading, spreading from the center, flowing on out to the sea. And there is no way of telling where the end is going to be.

Drop a pebble in the water: in a minute you forget, But there’s little waves a-flowing, and there’s ripples circling yet, And those little waves a-flowing to a great big wave have grown; You’ve disturbed a mighty river just by dropping in a stone.

Drop an unkind word, or careless: in a minute it is gone But there’s half-a-hundred ripples circling on and on and in. They keep spreading, spreading, spreading from the centers as they go, And there is no way to stop them, once you’ve started them to flow.

Drop an unkind word, or careless: In a minute you forget; But there’s little waves a-flowing, and there’s ripples circling yet, And perhaps in some sad heart a mighty wave of tears you’ve stirred, And disturbed a life that was happy where you dropped that unkind word.

Drop a word of cheer and kindness: just a splash and it is gone; But there’s half-a-hundred ripples circling on and on and on, Bearing hope and joy and comfort on each splashing, dashing wave. Till you wouldn’t believe the volume of the one kind word you gave.

Drop a word of cheer and kindness: in a minute you forget; But there’s gladness still a-swelling, and there’s joy a-circling yet. And you’ve rolled a wave of comfort whose sweet music can be heard. Over miles and miles of water just by dropping one kind word.

Year-Round Deed


 Planting plants and trees in appropriate places is an act of great merit. Anas has quoted the following Prophetic saying: –

“A man plants a tree or sows a field and a man or bird eats from it, the tree or field becomes a source of sadaqah for him.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

 Wow, when I first read this my personal reaction was what benefit and merit of advantage can be taken by all of us to be able to go out and plant a tree. Giving back to the environment is an action that rarely happens but yet so easy to be recognized as a good deed.