A parental point of view


As my child is nearing the age of understanding, I am finding it critical to be on the alert for anything that could possibly send a confusing message(s). Thus, with December just around the corner and the festive holiday decorations throughout stores or schools will raise many questions among our young Muslim children. I found the following article as a step that will help me help my child to better understand an approach to explain non-Muslim holidays such as Christmas. I found the article to be to the point and concise about the importance of bringing an awareness to a child’s life about events that may affect their religious beliefs and practices.

 Call a Meeting about Christmas

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With the ubiquitous decorations, Santa Claus beckoning, and classmates anxiously awaiting their presents, your kids are probably wondering once again: what’s the big deal about Christmas?

Some of them may have just accustomed themselves to the yearly celebration. Younger kids may be feeling curious, jealous even, of all of the excitement surrounding the event.

This is why it’s critical to share the Islamic perspective on Christmas with your kids. Even if they know what it’s about, they may feel left out, pressured, or even confused about it and where they stand as Muslims. Here are some ways to bring it up with them.

1.              Call a family meeting

While you can talk about the issue individually, the benefit of getting everyone together is that they can find out how different age groups are handling it. Dealing with Christmas in the office is different from facing it in high school or elementary school.

2.              Start with the recitation of the Quran

Begin with a recitation of Surah Al Fatiha, the first chapter of the Quran. Follow it up with a recitation of Surah al-Ikhlas, the 112th chapter of the Quran. Make sure the translations of both are read out loud. You can have each recitation done by a different family member.

3.              Get to know the territory

Have everyone share what kids at school, coworkers at the office, or the neighbors have been saying about Christmas. Whether it’s plans to go to church for Mass, visiting relatives, or getting lots of gifts under the Christmas tree, get as much information as possible so that each point can be addressed.

4.              Discuss Muslim and Christian beliefs about Jesus, peace be upon him.

Knowing these similarities and differences will teach them to respect beliefs different from their own. Ignorance only fuels misunderstanding. It will be good for parents to read our article about similarities and differences in the Christian and Islamic belief in Jesus, peace be upon him.

5.              Explain the need for multicultural understanding

The USA is a rich mosaic of colors, cultures and backgrounds. There are more than 80 million people of color in America.  There are followers of Native American faiths, Muslims, Jews, Buddhists, Hindus, and Sikhs who live in the US and practice their faith, while the majority of people here are born into the Christian faith. Each religious group has its celebrations and festivals. Just as Christians have their Christmas, for instance, Muslims have their Eids. It’s important for Muslims to know about Christmas, just as we expect people of other faiths to know about Eid.

6.              Stress the importance of respect for other faiths in Islam

Share how Islam has taught us to respect others’ beliefs and faith traditions, emphasizing that disagreement must never amount to disrespect. Use examples from the life of Prophet Muhammed, peace and blessings be upon him, to show how he gave the utmost respect to other religious groups by allowing them to pray in his own mosque and by instituting the freedom of religion and self-governence in the constitution of Madinah.

7.              Emphasize the respect for Jesus and all Prophets in Islam

Explain how every Prophet in Islam is treated with dignity and respect. One example is how we say ‘peace be upon him’ after each of their names. Another is how they are highly praised by God in the Quran. Jesus, peace be upon him, is important because belief in him can serve as a bridge between Muslims and Christians.

8.           Talk about gifts and decorations

You can’t talk about Christmas without discussing these two elements of the celebration. Don’t be surprised if your kids share feelings of longing for presents and pretty decorations.  Ask them what would make Eid, their holiday, special for them. Gifts? A trip? This should lead to a lively discussion and great ideas that you can implement next Eid Insha Allah (God willing).

9.              Respecting others does not mean compromising your faith

Islam is a unique faith which asks Muslims to believe in all the Prophets, recognize all the Scriptures given to them, respect all other faiths, and not force our faith on anyone else. But at the same time the Prophet Muhammed himself, Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, asked us to be firm about our faith and its practices. Respect for other beliefs never means compromising our faith. God given freedom to practice our religion is also embodied in the constitution of the United States which allows freedom of religion to all citizens. It is in recognition of this freedom and the celebration of diversity in the US that the post office issued the Eid Mubarak stamp as it did for other celebrations.

10.           Make the meeting interactive

Family meetings should not be just lectures by an adult. Although the topics for this meeting are all serious, you can turn them into interactive sessions based on the age of the children attending. You may decide to do two meetings instead of one.

11.           Putting this all into practice

When we tested this meeting concept and format in our editor’s home, it went very well. The youngest participant was eight years old, was the most active and knew most of the stuff, thanks to the other meetings and the Islamic schools he attends. However, the meeting reinforced the messages which we wanted to come across and the evening ended with a storytelling session with all the lights off. It was fun!



5 responses to this post.

  1. They are very good advices. Specially when you need to raise your children in a non-muslim country. Thank you to share them with us.. 🙂


  2. Salaam,
    Very nice article , each n everything u wrote, it actually applies here also in bangalore-india , as here also we have people with different faiths n beliefs, and its very dificult for kids to diferentiate between their n followers of other religion, coz at home we try n teach them to follow the Islamic way and when they go to school they are actually seeing other kids following as per thr respective ways(in particular hinduism n christianity), so the best way to deal with it is actually to teach them this very important thing that they should respect all the religions and follow their own.
    One more thing that I would like to share with you, though am not very sure if u may agree with me is that we at home actually put a christhmas tree and get for kids gifts, though they do know theres no santa n all the details, but its just for fun n exitement, and diwali time we do hv crackers n all at home, but at the same time , by doing this that doesnt mean , that our beliefs n faith for Islam becomes less.


  3. As Salaamu Alaikum Sis:

    Thanks for stopping by. Culture defines so many things but to seperate that from religious practices and beliefs is something tht should be instilled in our children. To compromise your beliefs and identity as a Muslim is something that I take serious in the way I want to raise my child(ren). We are responsible for our children and they are a reflection of who we are as parents. I always beleive that we are not raising children but adults.



  4. Posted by adikbongsu on December 1, 2007 at 12:53 am

    Alhamdulillah for this tips…. Jazakillah sister 🙂




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