Everyday Life


… They should rather pardon and overlook. Would you not love Allah to forgive you? Allah is Ever-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Qur’an, 24:22)

As I was walking passed some co-workers this week, I never expected to witness an intense arguement between two individuals. Hostility in actions and words flared from one side and tension was left in the air. Some days later, neither one is speaking to each other.

It’s human nature for our words to get in the way of our actions and nevertheless it can take some of us a long time to free the hatred and anger in the heart.  We are tried in this world, and learn by our mistakes and some of the great qualities that are difficult to acquire is to be sincere in our forgiving,  and tolerant to the anger that may overtake a person’s behavior. Moreover, we should be capable to accept forgiveness even when they are in the right, and the other in the wrong.  This is can be hard but the following research made left me astounded that forgiveness is not only of human value but there are benefits to our health.

According to recent research, American scientists established that those capable of forgiveness are healthier in both mind and body. Dr. Frederic Luskin, who holds a Ph.D. in Counselling and Health Psychology from Stanford University, and his team, studied 259 people living in the city of San Francisco. The scientists invited the subjects to attend six one-and-a-half-hour sessions, and aimed to instruct the subjects in forgiveness during their conversations.

The subjects of the experiments stated that they suffered less after forgiving people who had wronged them. The research showed that people who learned to forgive feel much better, not only emotionally but also physically. For example, it was established that after the experiment psychological and physical symptoms such as stress-related backache, insomnia and stomachaches were significantly reduced in these individuals. (Resource: Jennifer Desai, “Stanford Forgiveness Project’s Dr. Frederic Luskin studies why learning to forgive might be good for the body as well as the soul,” Almanac, 9 June 1999, www.almanacnews.com/morgue/1999/1999_06_09.forgive.html.)

In an article,  titled “Anger Raises Risk of Heart Attack,” published in The Times, stated that a short temper might be a short cut to a heart attack, and that young men who reacted to stress by becoming angry were three times more likely to develop premature heart disease, and were five times more likely to have an early heart attack.

All the available research shows that anger is a state of mind that seriously damages human health. Forgiveness, on the other hand, even if it comes hard to people, is pleasing, an aspect of superior morals, that eliminates all the harmful effects of anger, and helps the individual to enjoy a healthy life, both psychologically and physically. Forgiveness, of course, is one of a form of behaviour by which a person can stay healthy, and a positive virtue everyone should live by. However, the true aim of forgiveness—as in all else—must be to please Allah. The fact that the features of this sort of morality, and that the benefits of which have been scientifically identified, have been revealed in many verses of the Qur’an, is just one of the many sources of wisdom it contains.

For that reason, believers are forgiving, compassionate and tolerant people who, as revealed in the Qur’an, “control their rage and pardon other people.” (Qur’an, 3:134)

The repayment of a bad action is one equivalent to it. But if someone pardons and puts things right, his reward is with Allah… (Qur’an, 42:40)


2 responses to this post.

  1. I too forgive people. Yet i dont forgive some people who harm intended and still continue their bothering.
    Forgiveness has its influence when the person who harms, gets ashamed of what he did..


  2. Posted by adikbongsu on November 21, 2007 at 1:57 am

    Assalamu’alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakahtu,

    Its easier to say “I forgive you” but to put it truly into action can be difficult except for those whose heart has Allah’s protection and blessing. Most ppl i think would react in the way in which they may “easier to forgive but not to forget”.


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