Summer Occasion


Heat, unbearable temperatures, water bottles, wishing I had a huge air conditioner unit but a fan will do for now. This has described most of my summer days. However, while we are all going through these weather conditions people still find things to do whether alone or with the family. It could be a swim in the pool, or inviting guests over for a henna party becasue this will eventually lead up to attending a WEDDING.

My friend and colleague got married this summer. Her marriage was held in the northern part of Morocco. Yes, her husband is Moroccan and this was an interracial marriage where the couple united two countries, families, cultures and religions.  Her wedding was different in that she had to change into several different outfits during her wedding ceremony. This included the jewlery, stylish dressses and head pieces that all revelaed something unique. At the end she slipped into her white wedding dress which was brought in by her mother as she traveled across the Atlantic in order to attend this long awaited occasion.

Then came the Moroccan food, musicians and I really did not expect this event to be turned into an entire community feasting at the expense of the groom and his family. I mean you invite so many people but expect to have unexpected guests too. Anyway, weddings can last up until really late into the next morning. 

 Please, can’t weddings just be a little toned down. Who is getting married here? It is amazing and personal how much work and effort goes into planinng a wedding to become a reality.

Moroccan weddings vary from family to family and personal choice of climate you want to create for your guests. Every culture treasures the wedding ceremony in some way. Traditions and ceremonies differ in each culture. However, what I have learned is that the traditional Moroccan wedding has quite an elaborate and meaningful process. The wedding process can take up to seven days and there are many pre-wedding ceremonies which take place before the actual wedding.

What I really was amazed with is how the bride would be lifted up on a circular cushion or table and the groom on the shoulders of his friends accompanied by a group of friends who sing, beat drums and dance. Later that night honking of cars can be heard and women’s voices as they ecstatically sound out a cry of emotions. It is intersting to see how weddings vary among the different regions and cultures. 

Marriage is the most important decision made by the couple.


Should this whole affair be so elaborate and expensive?



2 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by adikbongsu on August 1, 2007 at 3:58 am

    Assalamu’alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh sister,

    interesting post …i like it!… 🙂

    indeed different countries and cultures have varieties of ways to celebrate weddings. In my Malay culture, some prefer to have elaborate weddings and there are some who like it simple. Frankly, i prefer the simple ones because i find it simply hard work to prepare an elaborate wedding celebration.

    the Malay culture also have the brides and grooms changing into various clothing for photo taking. I had mine and I must say I did enjoy it because that’s the only time I can become a model….hehee

    Thks sister for sharing the above, very interesting indeed. 🙂


  2. As Salaam Walakium Sis,

    I know all to well what you are talking about. Although I haven’t attended these lavish soirees wedding parties. I do have a friend who had a ton of pictures of her Morrocan wedding and I was amazed at the different dresses and headpieces, make-up, jewelry, you name it worn during this one day event. Let me not even start with the pre-wedding ceremonies LOL that you’ve mentioned. I thought it was very beautiful, but too fancy for me. I wanted something simplistic in my wedding and just a nice lunch at a great restaurant by the Brooklyn Bridge which was very meaningful for my husband and I and the view just astounding. Anyway getting off topic now… I think sometimes these weddings are a little too overrated and too elaborate let me not even mention the thousands of dollars spent in planning a wedding of this scale. My opinion is if the bride wanted it and it hasn’t placed a burden financially on anyone than Alhamdulilah because they can afford it. But like you mentioned sometimes these parties aren’t really Islamic with the music, and mixing etc. but that’s a whole different post. If the family is able to afford it and they aren’t trying to just please and show-off to the guests than Mashallah, celebrate and have fun. But in my opinion, unfortanetly that’s not the scenario for many families it puts a large hole in their pockets and those paying for it at times, and its done to show-of what you’re able to afford and end up as an event of boasting and arrogance. May Allah keep us always humble and away from arrogance inshallah. And like you mentioned in the post
    “Marriage is the most important decision made by the couple”. That’s a huge weight to put on someone’s shoulder with the money spent on it and the obligations that society puts on the couple to stay married because of the wedding expenses, gifts, and reputation of the family. Jazak Allah Khairan for this post sis…. Muchos Abrazos 😉


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