Archive for August, 2007

The very young and restless


Today as I was coming back from a full day of work the only thing I could look forward to was seeing my child’s precious little face looking back at me with adoration. My tiredness was gone as I opened the door and he immediately ran to show his affection with a hug around my waist. Next, the evening always begins with “mommy listen to this.” To sit and listen with such excitement to a child’s list of events that happened and to  observe all this bunch of energy that just never wears out is truly a change of state of mind as from when we spent a lot more time together during the summer. A summer fades away as I remember back how we  were able to engage in more one on one activities whether it be a day that was going well to a  possible upsetting day of heat and confinement to indoor activitites that left me with a need to escape.  There were those moments when I just wished  for some peace, some alone time but just with me and a good book.  My escape came in the form of a shower, pretending that I have some really urgent work and left my son with my husband, or just going to pick up my friend to go to the store and just going out with her for a bit. Granted, sometimes we have to make the best out of what we have. I guess.

Soon, he will be returning to school and the routine will change. The late bedtime stories, popcorn movies, online games, painting, cooking breakfast together and all the other outdoor visits to the beach, not to mention having ridden a pony for the first time have all become just a child’s memories. Not to mention a mother’s valuable time well spent laughing, crying, arguing, playing and most importantly reassuring that a child grows up with quality committment.

A mother is such a special role and as it was mentioned

 Narrated Abu Huraira: A man came to Allah’s Apostle and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man said. “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked for the fourth time, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your father. ”  (Book #73, Hadith #2)

Small escapes can be so rewarding if we allow them to be.

How do you get your little escape in the day?


A Narrative


My favorite story. This is a great educational video on our prophet Jesus.

 Abu Hurairah reported Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) as saying, “I am the nearest of kin to Jesus, son of Mary, in this world and the next. The prophets are brothers, sons of one father by co-wives. Their mothers are different but their religion is one. There has been no prophet between us”. (Bukhari and Muslim).

Please view this 4 part series  

Is the grass always greener on the other side?


There are moments in our lives where we’d want to be in another person’s shoes as long as it isn’t ours. We would want to go in search of greener pastures. Well, I would say that what we may or may not have could be a blessing. Enjoy it and learn through life’s experiences. The grass my blog friends, is NEVER greener on the otherside.

“The grass is always greener” is an expression that addresses a side of human nature of always wanting more or to be somewhere else. I am here but I want to be there type thing. It doesn’t really have anything to do with actual travel. 

I started to think – Why do we always have the perception that other people’s lives are better than ours? Why are we constantly trying to find something better? Why are we never satisfied with what we have? And why, oh why does the grass always seem greener on the other side??

Anyway, there are so many terms out there used in our English langauge. This expression just seems to be one of my favorites because it can relate to so many events and issues in our lives.

A Name…


What is in a name?

A name is an identity; a word that describes who we are. A name must do more than just sound good it should at least have a beautiful meaning as well. With the ever growing interest in Islam comes a need for understanding Muslim names. American Muslims also need ideas for naming their babies.

I have seen some names out there that identify a Muslim child with a non-Muslim name, such as Neil and “Blu.”Also, some names that Muslims have and feel that non-Muslims can not pronounce and thus take nicknames that identiy them with an easier English pronunciation. Such as “Sam” or “Al” or “Mo”

So, what’s in a Muslim name?

Requirements for Muslim Names

Muslim names do not have to be of any particular origin or language. They simply must have a nice meaning. Still, many Muslims do have Arabic names.

  • Names must not imply partnership or competition with Allah.
  • Names of Prophets are encouraged. Examples are Musa (Moses), Isa (Jesus), Ibrahim (Abraham), Nuh (Noah), Adam, and Mohammed.
  • Names of the companions of the Prophet (PBUH), including Abu Bakr and Aisha, are encouraged.
  • Names must be complete. For example, many people mistakenly believe that “Abu” is a Muslim name. “Abu” means “father” and is not a name. “Abu” must be combined with something else to form a complete name.
  • Names should not have negative meanings. Names meaning war, rebel, or others of that sort are not allowed.
  • Do not choose names that could cause ridicule or embarrassment in later life.


For more information on selecting names check out an additonal reading:


Do you have a favorite Muslim name for a child? If so, what is it and what does it mean?



Looking Forward




The Blessed Month


Ramadan is here,

Here is Ramadan.

Ramadan is coming,

The time that is blessed.

Ramadan is coming,

The time we love best.


The month in which the Qur’an was sent;

A time of great blessing in which to repent.

Fasting for Allah is a great Muslim deed;

Controlling desires and Suppressing greed.


Ramadan is coming,

Increase your Iman.

Ramadan is coming,

Recite the Qur’an.


Taking “Suhur” in the dead of the Night;

No eating no drinking during the daylight.

Refrain from bad deeds and repent your soul;

The pleasure of Allah is our only goal.


Ramadan is coming,

So let us prepare.

Ramadan is coming;

There is peace everywhere,


Even if there is hunger, remember your Lord

And wait until ‘Iftar’ to earn your reward.


Fasting is one of the gifts of Allah

Given to believers to increase ‘Taqwah’.


Ramadan is here,

here is Ramadan.

Ramadan is coming,

so seek the new Moon.

Ramadan is coming,

it will be here soon.


We pray to Allah to put right our hearts;

Ask for forgiveness from Allah and make a new start.


Raising our hands we ask for his ‘Rahmaa’;

Hear us our Lord and grant us Jannah’.


A poem taken from

All or Some of the Above



10 great goals to set for this Ramadan

by Sound Vision Staff writer

  1. Eat, drink and be moderate

Almost all of us do it – once Iftar time hits, we just keep plowing food and drink into our mouths till it’s hard to move afterwards. And those of us who do it know this is totally contrary to the spirit of Ramadan, through which we’re supposed to learn self-control not self-indulgence. Let’s try to stick to the Prophetic rule on eating: fill our stomachs with one-third food, one-third water and one-third breathing space, even in Ramadan.

  1. Give a dollar a day in charity…or five or ten

The Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, was always generous but even more so in Ramadan. Let’s open our hearts and dig a little deeper in our wallets this year. Even less than a dollar a day adds up. Whatever you can give, it’s the intention that counts.

  1. Memorize 4 new Surahs

Memorizing the Quran often seems like a daunting task. But the key is doing it in small bites. Since there are four weeks in Ramadan, try to memorize one new Surah a week. Start off with a short, easy one. Once you’ve started, you’ll build momentum and may even want to memorize a longer one the following week.

  1. Go to Tarawih prayers

Post-Iftar, the first urge is to sleep after an exhausting day. But try your best to head out to the mosque for Tarawih prayers. Praying alone is wonderful, but doing it in congregation is fantastic. The community spirit is part of Ramadan’s blessings. Don’t miss it this year. If going every day is not possible, try going at least one week.

  1. Attend the Tarawih prayer in which the recitation of the Quran will be finished

Call the local mosque and find out which day the Imam will be finishing the recitation of the Quran in prayer. Attend to not only hear part of the Quran’s recitation in prayer, but also participate in the heart-rending Duas that follow it.

  1. Stop swearing and/or backbiting – with a special box

It’s hard not to shoot our mouths off when someone’s upset us. Whether we utter those four-letter words or backbite about someone to our family and friends, we know this isn’t the God-approved way of letting off steam. In Ramadan, when we want to build our spirituality, we’ve got to wage Jihad against our bad habits.

Try this: get a box and every time you catch yourself swearing or backbiting put some money in it. It could be a buck or less. The point is to choose an amount that makes it feel like punishment.

At the end of the month send the money to a charity or buy a gift for the person whom you’ve backbitten the most against.

  1. Call/email your relatives

You’d think that given the easy access to email, competitive long-distance calling rates, phone cards, etc. these days, we’d keep in touch with family and friends more often. But the opposite seems to be the case, as we get caught up in life’s “busyness.”

Strengthening ties with family members and keeping in touch with friends is part of our way of life and an act Allah is very pleased with. This Ramadan, call family and friends or at least email them a Ramadan card and ask them how their fasting is going.

  1. Go on a technology diet

Even if you work in the IT industry, you can do this. Avoid checking personal email and surfing the web during your fast. After Iftar, instead of plopping yourself in front of the screen, go to Tarawih. The same goes for the television. The point is to try to give our full attention to spiritual elevation this month.

  1. Read 5 minutes of Quran a day…just five, not more, not less

Even if you feel you’ve got absolutely no time, set a timer or the alarm on your cell phone and find a relatively quiet place. You can read the first page of the Quran you open or follow a sequence. The choice is yours. The point is simply to connect with God through His revelation in the month of the Quran.

  1. Forgive everyone who has hurt you

Still got a festering wound from the fight with your friend last year? Still upset about something your spouse said during a heated argument? Or are you still bitter about the way your parents sometimes treated you as a kid? Let go of the anger and pain this Ramadan and forgive those who have hurt you. Forgiving someone is not only good for the body, but it’s also great for the soul. And in Ramadan, ten days of which are devoted to Allah’s forgiveness, shouldn’t we lesser beings forgive too?

If you find it very difficult to forgive everyone, forgive at least three people

Keeping it Real


I found this sign above to be an intersting expression. I am just wondering if you could translate it into what our American culture knows as “Keeping it Real.”

An American expression that means to be honest and truthful, to have integrity, without a hidden agenda, in another words no shortcuts “dude.”

Our language consists of so many popular phrases, idioms and confusion on what it can mean within context. Someone who wants to learn English will have fun deciphering our grammar and will love to learn to appreciate its meaning.

I think the sign above has a good intention to advertise someting but worded incorrectly.

What do you think the owner is trying to say?